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How the “Monkey Mind” Causes Stress

In the Ten Minute Angelic Tea Prayer we discussed and discovered a way for you to enjoy a quiet moment.

This gives you a chance to take a deep reflective breath.

Let’s dive even deeper.

Your Monkey Mind is Causing Stress

The simplest way to describe mindful breathing is to focus on your breath: Inhale and exhale.

Let’s look at what happens when the brain is tired and stressed.

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This metacognition distortion can be called the “Monkey-Mind”: Which means unsettled, restless, indecisive.  It can decrease attention spans, memory and the ability to adequately learn. Basically, this causes mental chaos and leaves you scrambling, anxious, and even possibly depressed.

Take a moment and think about it.

Negative Affects of Stress and the “Monkey Mind”

You are super tired, so you drink extra coffee or consume an energy drink. You have so much going on that you are drained and the thought of cooking dinner upsets you. So, you go through the drive thru and grab a quick bite to eat.  Lastly, you try to sleep with a belly full of fatty foods.

Agony happens, because you are tossing and turning, and can’t sleep.

In the morning you grab an energy drink or an extra shot of espresso in your morning coffee to give you energy from a lack of a restful night’s sleep.

Thus, the vicious cycle continues.

End Stress With Deep Breathing:

Let’s look at what deep breathing does to the brain.

  • Tension begins to diminish
  • Oxygen is released from your brain
  • Blood pressure drops
  • Endorphins are released
  • Releases toxins
  • Strengthens the immune system
  • Increases energy
  • Improves clarity
  • Your body relaxes

So, imagine what 15-20 mins will do for you.

52 Mins of Focus

Some may say that they can work large amounts of time, and some may be able to “handle” longer work periods.

Let’s break this down some more. Research specifies that the cognitive mind works well for 52 mins and then needs a breather.

A breather can help increase your oxygen levels.  Upon which, you are better able to focus,  because your body and mind rested for a bit.

Positive Results

Let’s focuses on the totality and functionality of your mind. Your brain works well for about 52 mins. Then it needs a breather.

You are more functional, better able to think and produce the most amazing results when you have a calm, relaxed mind.

Wouldn’t you rather function at your best?

This can also help you breeze through your work in less time.

Now who doesn’t like that idea?

Please be aware that you are in control and not the ego.

Study Says: 

Recently, there was another study conducted that states that workers are less productive after meditation while working.  What the study did not include was on overall basis on how the “Monkey Mind” can create more stress and anxieties; but after meditation, workers were able to function in a manner that was more productive. The ego may continue to whine and procrastinate; how you choose to deal with your ego can create a peaceful or stressful situation.

And I can hear, but Natasha I work well under pressure. And I ask do you really? Take a look back at something that you were working on. Does this gleam YAHOO, super success or Uh oh, how’d I miss that…

Win – Win 

Now look at this from a positive standpoint.  You took a break with deep breathing exercises. Now, look at how by slowing the mind, your body was able to intake more oxygen. This helped provide a way to calm the “Monkey-Mind,”  you to be  more relaxed and better functional.

To me that’s a win-win.

17 seconds of deep breathing:

Sit or Stand with your elbows slightly back.

Inhale as if you are breathing in the aroma of flower or cooking food for the count of 7 (mouth closed-inhaling through your nostrils)  and then hold for the count of 4.

Exhale as if you are blowing away a dandelion or bubble for the count of 6 with your mouth open.

Easey Peasy!

Calm Patience 

Please be patient with yourself. This takes time to readjust your body; especially if you are not used to deep breathing.

Use your cell’s timer.

Begin with 1 minute of 17 seconds of deep breathing, That is three rounds or 51 seconds.

Your body will love you for this!

Work your way up to 3 mins; then 10 and so on.

Hey maybe you’ll get to 17 seconds of deep breathing in 17 mins.

WOW, calm, clear body and mind. AMAZING!! 

Quiet Reflection 

Try not think of anything else during your deep breathing.

Now, if your mind wanders, as it may, that’s okay. Just bring yourself back and begin again.

Cognitive distortion may happen; it is  a learned and taught behavior pattern. It takes time to un-do a life long habit and re-establish a new one.

RE- It’s all Latin to Me: 

Take this moment to ponder and reflect upon you.

The re- prefix in latin means again.

Rest

Re-store = a place where goods are kept

Re-view= see

Re-flect = bend or curve

This is all about you.

“When you rest where your goods are kept you can see the light bend and curve back to you.”

                                                                                                               – Natasha Botkin

Honoring You

You shall find yourself with more energy. Which then creates the space to cook a healthier meal, where you can sit and slowly enjoy. Which elevates your vibration energy and this cycle continues with positive vitality.

Please be gentle with yourself. You’ve got this!

Reach out to me when you are ready to connect and learn more.

 

Oodles of Love,

Natasha

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6 Simple Ways to Increase Your Confidence Part 1

In this part of the two part series we will explore confidence. What it means and how you can have more of it in your life. In my previous blog, What’s Your Word of the Year, I share that my word of the year is confidence.

You may wonder how can I convey confidence to you; who better than one who is actually living the change; rather than one more person barking an idea at you. I do not know about you, but I am super tired of “people” yakking about subjects they have not experienced.

What Does Confidence Mean

The word begins with the meaning the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.

Let’s take a deeper look. It is the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.

Grateful heart Gratitude Self Love Self Care Magical BlessingsOr going even deeper. It is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.

Once upon a time due to a domestic violence situation, I learned to distrust, disallow and second guess everything. It shook my confidence to the core.

I am no longer that person.

Brimming

I am brimming with confidence. It is another way to say that I am full of confidence. Or what I like to call True Voice, Authentic Voice, and Who I am.

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” – E.E. Cummings

Good Vibrations

Imagine for a moment that you have your own unique style and quirks. You are not afraid to be you. You know you and use your voice in a positive manner that is beneficial to you.  When you speak your truth you will find yourself surrounded by others who have the same vibration. They may not seem like your peps, and yet, they are in your vibrational allegory.

Yep, that may mean that people who once seemed cool and adored you, may now find you off putting and vice versa. Your true authentic voice and vibration will light your path. This is confidence at its best. Being brave and courageous to unequivocally you! 

6 Simple Ways to Increase Your Confidence

  1. Groom yourself: It seems obvious and yet it is amazing on how good you can feel with a shower or bath. I have been in a horrible feeling and poof as if by magic the water cleansed me both inside and outside.
  2. Dress Nicely: Get dressed. There was a point in time where I would slide out of bed, run a brush through my tangled mass of hair, pull it back and throw on a shirt and shorts; no care, just going through the motion. We all need days like this to rest and veg; but not when it is day after day. Get dressed this will boost your mood big time.
  3. Anxiety and/or depression zappers: Stop worrying about the past and doubting the future.  Live right now at this moment. Right now you are reading this blog post. When you are done you have moved to another moment. Go slow; step by step. There is no race.Dream Big Make Happen Choice Chance Change Magical Blessings
  4. Mindful breathing. This can be meditation. Taking a 5 mins midday break where you breath deeply. Let your mind wander. Breath in and out. Just breath and let go of worry, anxiety.
  5. Speak slowly. Give yourself the benefit of not racing to an answer. If you really mean no. Inhale, take a deep breath, exhale and slowly say, no, thank you. When you slow you speech, you are able to connect with your true feelings. It is okay to say no.
  6. Set a goal/new habit. It takes 21 days to create a habit and 28 days for this to stick. Choose a goal/new habit. Set aside time and work on it for 15 mins each day. Mark on a calendar your success and at the end of 21/28 days celebrate. Not a small celebration. Make this huge!

You Can Do it! 

No matter how many times your have tried or where you are beginning, be proud of yourself for trying. You are an amazing, brave individual. Now go forth and build your confidence one step at a time.

Natasha, please help me gain more confidence

 

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings, 

Natasha

 

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Are You Shunning the Girl Within? Part 2

In my previous post Are you Shunning the Girl Within Part 1, I discuss the nasty subject of girl shunning.  However, let’s take examine this at a deeper level.

Ready, set, meet me there…

Shunning You

Inner Girl Power Inner Child Feminine Magical BlessingsYou are a girl; your age does not matter; you have an inner child.

Do you sit with her, play with her, hold any interest in her?

Worst of all do you ignore her or call her names?

If you answered yes to any of these, there is a way to stop the snarky madness.

Moving Through the Pain

For a moment stop and ponder why you ignore or call you names.

Why do you dislike or dishonor yourself?

Who in your life created a way for you to do this?

Now, it is not about the blame game.  This is about getting to the root of it all.  Strong blooms, blossom better with strong roots.  So, we will explore and discover what is uprooting your girl.

Seek and you Shall Find

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You are seeking happiness and solace. There is anxiety, worry or maybe dread. It does not have to be this way.

You will need 20-30 mins for this activity. Please enjoy this in a quiet space and light a while candle.

 Let’s Begin:

Meditation:  For a moment, close your eyes and see you at the age of 6. You are playing hide and seek.  What is the best hiding place to stay hidden?

Journal Time: Open your eyes and write this down.

Meditation: Next, close your eyes again. You are still in this perfect hiding spot. Hold out your hand and speak very softly in a sweet gentle manner. What does your inner girl do or say? Let her speak freely; allow her the freedom to express herself.

Journal Time: Open your eyes and write this down.

Meditation: Close your eyes again, and using a gentle, soft voice ask her what she needs.

Journal Time:  Open your eyes and write this down.

Meditation: Close your eyes, offer to sit with your inner girl.  Do not rush; especially if you have not spoken to her and spent time with her. She may shy and disbelieve you.  Use this meditation and journaling activity as much as you need.

Coming out of Hiding

Let go of all that you “think” you know, and allow your inner girl to connect with you. She will show you things about you, that even you may not remember nor recall. She is on your side, and wants the best for you. You are an incredible team. Grant her permission to be this cheerleader, teacher and guide.

The biggest moment of all.

Ho’oponopono is a powerful ancient Hawaiian Forgiveness Mantra.

Close your eyes and repeat:

I am sorry

Please forgive me

I love you 

Thank You

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Standing Tall with your Inner Girl Power:

  1.  Be Authentic! Be you like no one is watching. Dance, sing, wear that lavender hair.  Seriously, no one cares. “If no one likes what you are creating, just smile at them and tell them to go make their own fucking art.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
  2. Speak to your Inner Girl. Let the conversation keep flowing. Do not stop it. She needs to hear from you directly, fully and completely. Turn off the electronics and spend 15-20 mins a day with her. She is a powerful force deep within you; she is your biggest cheerleader and ally!
  3. Honor & Respect your Inner Girl. If you say to her that you will go for a walk, meditate, paint do it! She will retreat once again, and find it even more difficult to trust you. You deserve self-love and self-care! 
  4. Ask your Inner Girl  for advice. Going to get a mani/pedi, ask her what color or what type of bubble bath, essential oil, colors to paint/color with. She loves that you include her as she is you and you are she. Ask what’s a good idea for dinner. There’s all kinds of way to ask her for advice. 
  5. Support your Inner Girl. Your inner girl is deeply connected with you, so she may be a great siren to signal danger. When she does this, please disallow the ego to override her. Again, she has your best interest at heart. 
  6. Calm the inner anxious storm within. Your inner girl is handy at helping with the anxiety monster that gets out of hand. Ask her to hold you, take your hand and guide you. She will thrive and enjoy caring for you; as she is you and you are she. She is great at calming the woes, doubts and worries.

Now your inner girl is not an excuse. Oops, my inner girl got her freak on or my inner girl made me do it. Do not use her as scapegoat; she will not tolerate that.

A nice example is I wrestled for a year to incorporate pastel purple in my hair. Finally, after peekaboo attempts, I heard my inner girl, say, “Girl, just get over yourself and do it, trust me!” I ordered the pastel purple and very much enjoy the gorgeous lavender locks!! My inner girl was so spot on!

Get your Inner Girl on!  

Rock it Girl! 

You Got this!! 

 

Yes!  Natasha, I would love to hear my inner girl and shine my inner radiance.

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A Great way to begin the discussion with a young lady or a better understanding for all ages.

 

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings, 

Natasha 

 

 

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