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6 Simple Ways to Increase Your Confidence Part 1

In this part of the two part series we will explore confidence. What it means and how you can have more of it in your life. In my previous blog, What’s Your Word of the Year, I share that my word of the year is confidence.

You may wonder how can I convey confidence to you; who better than one who is actually living the change; rather than one more person barking an idea at you. I do not know about you, but I am super tired of “people” yakking about subjects they have not experienced.

What Does Confidence Mean

The word begins with the meaning the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.

Let’s take a deeper look. It is the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.

Grateful heart Gratitude Self Love Self Care Magical BlessingsOr going even deeper. It is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.

Once upon a time due to a domestic violence situation, I learned to distrust, disallow and second guess everything. It shook my confidence to the core.

I am no longer that person.

Brimming

I am brimming with confidence. It is another way to say that I am full of confidence. Or what I like to call True Voice, Authentic Voice, and Who I am.

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” – E.E. Cummings

Good Vibrations

Imagine for a moment that you have your own unique style and quirks. You are not afraid to be you. You know you and use your voice in a positive manner that is beneficial to you.  When you speak your truth you will find yourself surrounded by others who have the same vibration. They may not seem like your peps, and yet, they are in your vibrational allegory.

Yep, that may mean that people who once seemed cool and adored you, may now find you off putting and vice versa. Your true authentic voice and vibration will light your path. This is confidence at its best. Being brave and courageous to unequivocally you! 

6 Simple Ways to Increase Your Confidence

  1. Groom yourself: It seems obvious and yet it is amazing on how good you can feel with a shower or bath. I have been in a horrible feeling and poof as if by magic the water cleansed me both inside and outside.
  2. Dress Nicely: Get dressed. There was a point in time where I would slide out of bed, run a brush through my tangled mass of hair, pull it back and throw on a shirt and shorts; no care, just going through the motion. We all need days like this to rest and veg; but not when it is day after day. Get dressed this will boost your mood big time.
  3. Anxiety and/or depression zappers: Stop worrying about the past and doubting the future.  Live right now at this moment. Right now you are reading this blog post. When you are done you have moved to another moment. Go slow; step by step. There is no race.Dream Big Make Happen Choice Chance Change Magical Blessings
  4. Mindful breathing. This can be meditation. Taking a 5 mins midday break where you breath deeply. Let your mind wander. Breath in and out. Just breath and let go of worry, anxiety.
  5. Speak slowly. Give yourself the benefit of not racing to an answer. If you really mean no. Inhale, take a deep breath, exhale and slowly say, no, thank you. When you slow you speech, you are able to connect with your true feelings. It is okay to say no.
  6. Set a goal/new habit. It takes 21 days to create a habit and 28 days for this to stick. Choose a goal/new habit. Set aside time and work on it for 15 mins each day. Mark on a calendar your success and at the end of 21/28 days celebrate. Not a small celebration. Make this huge!

You Can Do it! 

No matter how many times your have tried or where you are beginning, be proud of yourself for trying. You are an amazing, brave individual. Now go forth and build your confidence one step at a time.

Natasha, please help me gain more confidence

 

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings, 

Natasha

 

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Natasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author, Artist.  She uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me Magical Blessings Healing Center

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Are you Shunning the Girl Within Part 1

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Girl shunning, mean girls whatever you call it, this is wrong!  I have written about this before as it was happening to me.  More importantly, as a teacher I must face what is a societal norm.  Some will state that is it not present.  That is the lie that is told.

It runs prevalent with our youth and sadly, it all begins with you.  Do you open your arms up to another’s difference or do you whisper and gossip away.

The saddest factor is speaking to young ladies, and hearing why the attempted to end their life or found solace in an addiction.  It is happening earlier and earlier to our girls and our girls do not deserve to be mistreated!

Educational Blunders

Celebrating Differences Mean Girls Girl Shunning Feminine Power Goddess Strength Resilience Teen Tween Women womanAs an educator, I have traditionally taught at-risk youth and/or those with disabilities. In fact, I just had a conversation with a concerned parent about such the subject.  Her response, “When we realized this was happening, we did everything in our power with the schools, and yet, this is not the importance; the state standards are and my daughter has been saddened ever since.  I miss my happy girl.”

Trust me when I say, I have had girl drama erupt in my classroom.  One year I had 16 students; 14 girls and 2 boys- ages 13-14.  We all fine and dandy and then wham out of no where, girls are swinging and we are off to the races.

The Real Raw Truth

Let me be real!  Let me be Raw!  Are you raising a mean girl.  Or are you in fact a mean girl that is an adult teaching, showing the way?

This is a learned behavior and our girls are learning it somewhere.  So, ladies let’s take responsibility and teach them empathy and compassion. A good way to begin the conversation is with my beginner’s guidebook: Awakening the Feminine Goddess.

Now this is not to criticize nor judge; my intentions are to calm the storm.  To show that we can honor one another’s differences.  Let’s  help our young ladies honor themselves and others.

5 Ways to be Standing Tall 

First of all, it begins with her female role model.  What is influencing your young lady?  There was a very valid reason that I chose to disallow violent video games, shows and movies when my children were younger.  The impression that they would absorb is much more important, than the factor that they did not watch what everyone else was.  In fact, I used to have kids come to my house, because my house had “rules and expectations.” If you broke them, you had consequences to pay.

Now with that being said here are 5 ways to stand tall.

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Let’s show Our Goddess’ the Way & raise them with High Self-Esteem

1,  Be authentic.  Be you even if that means standing out of the crowd.  Prime example, is a student I had who wanted to wear black lipstick.  She was all excited to show this to me; I gave her permission ( of course, with her parents permission); she exited the bathroom and that is when all heck broke lose.  At that moment, other female students wanted to chastise her choices.  It was the perfect teaching opportunity of helping her to see her beautiful expression of who she truly is.

2. Speak with your daughter; keep the conversation flowing.  I do not know how many times a parent has said to me, “How’d you get her to tell you that?” Even though your tween/teen is pulling away towards independence, they are still impressionable and need support.

3. Honor and Respect your young ladies independence.  It is important that she feel she has the ability to express who she is.  This goes back to being authentic and allowing her true self to shine through.  My very conservative parents were blessed with a headstrong, independent, intelligent creative innovator.  I was know to find loop holes in the school dress code, and began a revolution to wear white after labor day.  Young parents may not know this, but gasp it was against the etiquette rules to wear white after labor day and here I am not only wearing white,  I usually had some stain from jumping in mud puddles. Shock, gasp, the horror of it all. Not, it is best to let your girl be her; let her grow and expand.

4. Support her endeavors.  It should not be, because I said so.  I am part of that generation and yep, that does not go over too well.  If she wishes to go out for wrestling then by golly go to every match and cheer her on.  Or if she wishes to be a cheerleader, then again, support her by showing up to her events.

5. No judgement! Perfect example, happens to be a boy in a commercial, but he repeats a very judgmental statement that he overheard his mom say about his aunt.  Teens are listening and watching even, if you do not believe that they are.  I had a conversation with a student one time about how can she respect her mom, when her mom is a gossip.

That takes us to lead by example.  Our girls are depending on us to guide, show and teach them the way.  It all begins with us.  Are we perfect. Nope!  Will we make mistakes? Oh, yes and that is okay.  Do we get an A for effort, yes, yes we do.  We just cannot give up!

Let’s show our ladies that it is okay to be their true selves and that do not have to pretend to be someone else.  Be glad that we are all different, because if we were all the same that would be one boring world.

Let’s embrace your differences and honor your beauty.

Let’s Raise Girls with Strong Self-Esteem! 

 

Yes! Natasha, I would love for my daughter to be herself!

 

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A Great way to begin the discussion with a young lady or a better understanding for all ages.

 

Oodles of  Love & Magical Blessings, 

Natasha 

Natasha Botkin Magical Blessings Healing CenterNatasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author, Artist and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator.  She uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me Magical Blessings Healing Center

 

 

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6 Creative Ways to Express YourSelf

The Divine created us to be creative, and when the Sacral Chakra is fine tuned your creative Self expression easily flows through you.

Create 

The definition to create is to bring something into existence.  This is about bringing something forward with a joyful heart. Not everyone takes pleasure in the same creative journey. That’s the beauty of creative expression is the truly unique Self expression that belongs solely to you; this is yours and yours alone.

 

LIGHT ENERGY

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We are energy light beings who thrive on energy.  This energy very much brings us expansion. The creative energy surges forth and asks us to create.  It is like your Sacral Chakra lights up and poof your magic begins.

 

Sexual Energy

A misstep of sexual energy  can occur when the Sacral Chakra is out of tune and misaligned. This can be over the top or none at all. We are created via the Divine for procreation, sensual and sexual energies to bring forth these creations.  However, we also not designed to forgo.  The American culture seems enamored with female breasts; the more the better in most movies.

Other cultures look to the female yoni/womb as the most sensually alluring.  This is the preemptiveness of the creative flow within. Allowing the sexual energy to flow also helps the expressive ways to come forward.  Suppression of sensual/sexual disallows the overall continuance of another.

 

Energy Express 

Energy can be clouded, convoluted and/or stuck.  It is about an open flow of giving and receiving. Ponder a light bulb, when the conduit is open the energy current flows and there is light. When it is shut off then there is no energy and there is no light- no energy.  Your energy being Self works in the same manner.  When you are in the flow, you are open and allowing to give and receive. When you are not, then your are stuck or blocked from that pattern of the Divine to creatively express yourSelf.

 

Self expression

Not everyone has the same interests, creative skills or Self Expression.  This is the beauty to use all of your senses: see, hear, smell, taste and touch.  Essentially, this is about Self Expression. What is in you that can come forth if you so choose to allow this?

Since, we all have differences what is created via self expression is a echo of a joyful soul. The most inward, endearing moments.  Not all joy has bells and whistles.  How one chooses to express themselves is part of the evolution of the soul.  Releasing and letting go of that which no longer serves you is part of the creation of giving and receiving.

Not all Self Expression is in the form of Art. This is anything that is brought into existence.

NURTURING Self Expression

Express Self Expression

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The most natural way to nurture yourSelf is through creation.

How often have you thought it must be a certain way or it does not count or why bother?

You are Uniquely, Quirky YOU and you deserve to Express yourSelf in a manner that makes your heart happy.  So, if you enjoy working on cars that brings forth peace to a motor to run smoothly, so be it.  If you enjoy writing from your heart, so be it.  If you enjoy any form of a hobby that brings something into existence and you have a happy heart as a result of this; this is the epitome of Creative Self Expression.

6 Ways of Creative Self Expression

  • Sing or Play an Instrument (even if your are singing along in your car; this is a way for your heart to bring forth your happiness and joy)
  • Write (Journal, write a blog, write a poem or book)
  • Use a Thesaurus (find different ways to say the same thing-Happy: Joy, Delighted, Content)
  • Draw or paint your feelings
  • Dance or move your body (through movement)
  • Role Play (act out, play a game, be someone else for a moment to show or practice expressing your feelings)

These are just a few.

First Creative Self Expression Activity; Make your own list of Creative Self Expression.

Natasha, I would like to learn more about Creative Expression or the Uniquely, Quirky YOU offers @ Magical Blessings.  All Ages are Welcome.

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings,

Natasha

 

 

Natasha Botkin Magical Blessings Healing CenterNatasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling author and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator.  Natasha uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me https://magicalwellness17.com