Raising Girls With Strong Self-Esteem

Raising girls with strong self-esteem is very near and dear to my heart. As a young girl, my family did not worry about the torrid comments: “sit down and shut up” or “you’re not that special.”  My post Reclaiming Your Power specifies my arduous journey with the reclamation of myself after domestic violence.  

These words were the rampant breeding ground for devaluing me, and not raising me to value myself.  Step by step, word by word, they tore my beautiful essence from me.  Little did they realize that their need for control of me was also setting me up for the most unfortunate role of my life.  One day the complacency of those words began the basis of what is domestic violence. I am grateful for these lessons, as this has lead me to the strong, powerful woman that I am today.

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As a Behavioral Specialist and Special Education teacher, I typically work with students that need critical and intensive education and social guidance.  Time and time again, I have transformed many young ladies who were also raised to not be heard, controlled a complacency of past generations.  These generations are in what I routinely call survival mode.  They have forgotten what it is to live and rush from one notion and moment of another in a robotic trance.

Unfortunately, this has left generations of young ladies confused and the references in a state of panic.  If their female role model is also one who has a lack of self-esteem then we have the progressive notion of commotion that continues its viscous cycle.

We do have the chance to change this from this point on.  Many ladies of the 40’s -60’s age bracket have had enough, and the divine awakened woman is here to make the change that requisites the chance for our young ladies. Please help share this message far and wide, as we can make a difference in someone’s life.

Raising Girls With Strong Self-Esteem: 

  1. Be that role model.  Show them through your actions.  Be mindful that your child is always watching you, even when you think they are focused on something else; they are listening, watching and so forth. If you are a woman with a daughter/granddaughter, you are her role model, lead by example through your actions and words.
  2. Communicate often with your daughter.  She needs to build her ability to effectively communicate her needs. This is through consistent action.
  3. Help her understand her feelings.  She needs help to build confidence in safely expressing her feelings.  She wishes to see you safely expressing your emotions, so that she may also freely express her emotional feelings.
  4. Teach her that it is okay to make mistakes, and how to forgive herself.  No one is perfect and she needs to understand the resiliency of bouncing back.
  5.  Show her how to be curious.  Teach her that it is okay to inquisitive in a positive manner.
  6. Men treat the special lady in your life well.  Whether this is her mother, step-mother, grandmother and so forth.  Young ladies need to have a male show them what it looks like to be treated well.

May we be part of the solution in raising Girls with Strong Self-esteem.

Yes! I’d love to learn more about how to empower me or help my daughter empower herself.

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Natasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author, Artist, Shiny Gold Star Quest creator.  She uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing anxious patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me http://magicalblessingshealingcenter.com

25 thoughts on “Raising Girls With Strong Self-Esteem

  1. Barb Parcells says:

    I have been an advocate for raising the self esteem of our girls since the days of marching in the streets for women’s rights (yes, I am that old!). I applaud all that you do for our girls

  2. Beverley Golden says:

    Having only one child, a daughter, I am 100% in agreement with you about infusing self-esteem in our girls from a young age. When my daughter was very young (in the early 80’s), she wanted to take karate and the teacher was reluctant, as she would be the only girl in an all boys class. We didn’t care. We made sure she had an opportunity to be in many situations that typically back then, girls didn’t venture into. Baseball camp was another place she excelled.

    I think we are seeing this message being more understood and accepted today. But then again, I left high school and went to play with a predominantly all -boys class in university in the late 60’s. I was one of ten girls in a class of 400 in my business administration class. Fortunately I had parents who supported me, encouraging me to do anything I wanted to do. So I did. Maybe what I’ve learned, I’ve been able to pass down to my daughter too! Thanks for this Natasha! An important message and one that needs to keep being shared. xo

  3. Vatsala Shukla says:

    I loved the guidance you provided in this post, Natasha, especially the last point for a very serious reason. By showing young girls how they should expect to be treated, the girl is given a benchmark to assess other men and how she is being treated. More importantly, when there is a son in the house and he sees his father treating his mother properly, he too learns how to treat the women who will come into his life later.

  4. Patty Gordon says:

    I constantly worry about this with my daughter. I don’t ever think I heard my father speak ill of my mother but my husband tends to express his frustration with other things in life onto me. I understand it and don’t take it personally since it’s so obvious he could be the star of an after school special, but I worry about how it looks to my daughter. I don’t want her to think that his behavior is what she should want or expect from her future husband.

    Thanks so much for posting this on the Blog Engagement FB page. I’ll be sharing this on my Mommy’s Mid-Life Quest page in the next few months. facebook.com/mommysmidlifequest.


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