Adjust Your Approach to Triggers and Change Your Mindset

You decide to make a change in your life. It’s a big deal and you wanna go for it; but, you don’t know how, and you’ve not been provided the steps on how to make this change. You hear about adjusting your mindset, and attmept to create the change. However, it backfires and you feel like a failure. So, now what. It’s not to say that you’re unintelligent, and assuming that you have all the answers is unfair. We all have expertise, something that we’re amazing at.

Adjust Your Mindset

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The old idea (fake it until you make it) is fading away and authenticity is much more powerful. It doesn’t mean that you have to have all the answers. I love driving my car, but I don’t desire to be the one to repair it when it breaks down; therefore, I go to an expert called the mechanic. It’s a win-win.

The same thing is true about how to identify what’s  a trigger. As well as how to effectively dissolve the trigger in a manner that works, and is not destructively ineffective.

Thus, this allows you to break a pattern. It is the acknowledgement and the recognition that brings forth the healing. This allows you to move through your emotions and feelings in a positive manner when you’re able to identify what upsets you and/or creates anxiety.

It’s going to be okay, and it’ll take a bit of adjustment and some time. Soon you’ll be about work with and through your emotions. This empowers your own personal development. Which can set you eons apart from those who have not learned how to effectively communicate with their inner being and soul.

How incredible is that? I don’t know about you, but I’m excited to be able to share this personal development tool and help your soul grow. Self-compassion and self-love are powerful empowerment tools.

Be patient with yourself. It takes time to unravel and undo learned behaviors and patterns. Think of this as a way to adjust your thought patterns from a negative to a more positive solution and outcome.

How to recognize a trigger:

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A trigger is when you feel uncomfortable. As if you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own skin, afraid, anxious, or mad. Basically it’s your emotions. Next time you get triggered go through this process.

  • Stop allowing your emotions to control you.
  • Except that you have emotions.
  • Recognize that using your emotions to feel is your superpower.
  • Recognize when you feel uncomfortable.
  • Allow yourself to feel: whether it be sad, mad, happy.
  • Be honest with yourself. For example if a friend or relative shares good news and you feel envious. That’s an emotional trigger
  • Have you realized that when you’re having a conversation with another that a particular emotion or feeling emotes sensation that is uncomfortable and you just wished end the conversation as soon as possible?
  • Have you realized that when you were hanging out with family or friends that a particular conversation is uncomfortable, and you feel?

Moving Through the Trigger

A great way to recognize emotional triggers is to journal. Use one of the writing prompts below or free write. Have a conversation with yourself on a piece of paper. This is a great way for you to express how you’re feeling, what emotions are showing up for you, in a safe manner that is reflective and constructive. Practice a conversation that you would like to have with someone in the mirror or in your journal but do not create a false expectation. you are not in control of anyone else’s reactions emotions or feelings. You can only take care of you in this manner, and that’s okay.

Writing Prompts:

  1. Write about a conversation you wish you could have.
  2. Create a timeline of small events that led up to a big event in your life.
  3. Write a poem about the greatest joy or the greatest sorrow in your life right now.
  4. Describe your greatest insecurity and why you struggle with it.
  5. Choose a song that emotes deep emotions. Why does it?
  6. What is your greatest source of guilt and how can you forgive yourself?

Maybe journaling is not your thing. Doddle an image and add words to this image.

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Gentle Reminder:

Be sure to recognize. Every pattern and trigger has a cycle, and when you are learning, there may be an old pattern that wishes to stop the cycle. Disallow this occurrence. When you stop a cycle this cycle will recycle. This is part of personal development and soul growth that until the lesson is learned it will continue onward at any cost; however when you are learning I’m you stop the cycle this can create more havoc than is necessary. Allow yourself to release, let’s go of the outcomes and expectations and flow into the experience. It takes time to adjust I’m not okay one step at a time is better than no steps or motion at all.



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Natasha Botkin MSc. SpEd. Rm., Reiki Master, Meditation Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author and Artist. She uses healing whimsical, magical, soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns, blocks, and trauma to help them empower themselves. Connect with me Magical Wellness 17.com

How to be Authentic

Have you heard the whispers in the air, the lull of the moon, the dance of the waves. Your authentic self calls to you, please come to me, let me be me.

One thing is for sure, your soul will not allow you to hide, procrastinate nor ignore. The energy vibes are calling, whispering, saying your truth and the more that you try to ignore or hide, the stronger the vibes may become.

It’s as if you soul is standing up and saying enough; enough with your shenanghans.  I am here in the now; now follow me.

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The old 3D adage of fake it until you make it, no longer rings true. It is an old pattern and belief established in the third dimension; the awakened consciousness no longer tolerates this type of shenanghans.

In fact this may create more dissidence than helpfulness. Your inner peace will sound like a siren screaming it’s head off- “You fraud, that’s false.” Please note that your authentic voice is more powerful than a meek or false voice. The 7D toll of the bell, rings of love, of truth, of light. It requires for you to let go of your mask(s), and stand in your true, authentic power.

The haters are gonna hate

There will be those who disagree. Okay, why do they have more power over you, than you do of yourself? Use your authentic voice, show the world who you really are, and the world will answer your call, and step up to form a clearer path as to how you will go about your soul’s blueprint and why you are here.

Now, this is not to say, that you cannot insist on “your way” aka the idea of “free will.” I am here to gently emphasize that this is a 3 year in numerology, where your inner-most heartfelt desires are set to take form.   Get ready to open your wings & FLY or flop.


Ultimately the choice is up to you. No one is in your way, but you.

Authentic Ways For You to Show up

Here are a few ways to show up in an authentic manner, which can calm the storm of the lesson if you allow. 

Ways to be authentic:

  1. Is this a feeling, emotion or thought? 
  2. Ask yourself what am I feeling? Sad, mad, happy, anxious, calm and more. Spend time with the feeling; sit with it; do not move on it. Take 3 deep breaths. Now how do you feel?
  3. Allow yourself to feel this emotion.  Do not ignore it, this will tighten its grip- Breathe in and out as the emotion happens. Rest for a moment, reflect on what this is teaching you. Inhale and then exhale by releasing the emotion and re-setting yourself. Give yourself space to flow through the emotion.
  4. Is the thought useful, benefical or is it an old story that wants attention? Inhale the thought, do nothing else and then exhale letting it go. Don’t hold onto it. Breath it out and ask the angels/spirit to take it from here.
  5. Where did the feeling, emotion or thought originate from? Pay careful attention to the signs that your emotional body is sending to your physical body (i.e.  is your chest tight- then breath into your heart center and allow the emotion to flow in and out of you-almost like an ocean wave). Disease holds onto the body and the origination is a feeling, emotion or thought: DIS-EASE.
  6. Is this actually a belief?  What is the illusion that you are trying to convince yourself as your truth?
  7. Reiki and Distance Healing is a great way to help you to rest, reflect and re-set.

The World Needs You to Dance With Yourself

This is from a metaphoric stance; and, yet it is key to be you. There is no one like you. You are perfect just as you are, and the world needs you to be you. In the words of Dr. Suess, “Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.”

May you always be blessed by being you!

Oodles of Love,

Natasha

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Let It Go!

Clutter Create Mental Chaos

Mental Debris and Clutter

Everything that surrounds you will either provide you comfort or discomfort.

The choice is up to you. 

Take a look around your living and your work space.

Does this show harmony, joy or healthy wellness?

Or does it scream help me, I feel like I am being burried alive?

Energy is a State of Mind

We are all energy beings and energy flows to where the attention goes. This can be positive energy or unhealthy anxious, depressed energy.  

Our mental state of mind is like that. Imagine for a moment a candle; the candle lights up the room, but what happens if you remove the oxygen. The candle will eventually stop burning. This may be immediately or over a period of time. You are like a candle, and you need oxygen, space and free- flowing movement. However, if you are packed in your living and work space. You are like the candle and maybe pittering out and unable to freely live the life you deserve. 

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Forbes recently posted an article about how people are not thriving and are burying themselves with stuff.  This is a mental state of mind, rather than a necessity.

How often do you hear the term retail therapy? 

Go outside soak up nature. Disengage from everything; unplug from electronics and connect back with you. Nature is amazing and will help you feel calm, peaceful and connect to your heart and soul.

Things to Enjoy in Nature

  • Meditate
  • Write in your journal
  • Read
  • Paint
  • Doodle
  • Draw
  • Veg 
  • Garden
  • Enjoy a cup of tea, coffee or Spirits
  • Nap
  • Rest
  • Look at the stars or moon

How Clutter and Debris Clogs Your Mind

People have become so used to stuff: the newest and greatest gadgets. All of this is to make your life easier. But come on, how often do you look for an item or have to move other stuff around. Probably more than you would like to admit. Or not even use the items you have, because you cannot reach it.

Sad but true for so many. Holding onto items, stuff, and hoarding is a mental state of being pursued into feeling safe. All too often this is about feeling safe and controlling your environment. 

The Mental Cost of Clutter

Sherrie Bourg Carter Psy.D. has written an article describing the preciousness of mental health and what clutter does to your body. One of the biggest statements that she makes is that clutter creates stress.

Yes, clutter can stress you out. You walk into a room that is messy, cluttered and this automatically sends out a stress s.o.s. signal to your brain. Your body’s natural defense begins and the negative ego starts talking: Abort, turn around and walk away. Unfortunately,  your ego may begin to internally beat you up about the mess and how you never clean it up: man what a loser.

Or, what if this clutter does not belong to you, but someone else you work with or live with. The same thing is happening; and because it is not yours, there’s not much you can do about it. I know, been there done that. Not everyone can see their faults or maybe they do not wish to address the deep inner issue.

Deep Inner Issue

Safety is a huge reason why people collect stuff. It is just stuff. Ya can’t take it with you. So, do these items that cause mental chao and stresses your physical body really need to control you?


Or there is a loss of a loved one, relationship and so forth. There may be trauma such as domestic violence. So, you hold onto stuff as if it is precious. Again this is like building a mental fortress around a deeper issue: Safety. 

You are safe.

In fact, for a year and a half, I have lived with only my clothes and personal items; that’s it. Ya know what I found. That the “stuff” wasn’t important. I am important: my mental and physical wellness is important. The clutter and stuff is not. 

Ultimately, how you deal with this is up to you. I hope that you find yourself able to remove debris, clutter and bring forth a mental wellness that lessens the physical stress that happens and you are happy, harmonious and safe! 

I will not allow anyone to walk through my mind with their dirty feet. – Ghandi 

This is a great book to get ya started


Oodles of Love,

Natasha

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Natasha Botkin MSc. Ed. Rm., Reiki Master, Meditation Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author and Artist.  She uses healing whimsical, magical, soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns, blocks, and trauma to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me Magical Wellness 17