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6 Simple Ways to Increase Your Confidence Part 1

In this part of the two part series we will explore confidence. What it means and how you can have more of it in your life. In my previous blog, What’s Your Word of the Year, I share that my word of the year is confidence.

You may wonder how can I convey confidence to you; who better than one who is actually living the change; rather than one more person barking an idea at you. I do not know about you, but I am super tired of “people” yakking about subjects they have not experienced.

What Does Confidence Mean

The word begins with the meaning the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.

Let’s take a deeper look. It is the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.

Grateful heart Gratitude Self Love Self Care Magical BlessingsOr going even deeper. It is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.

Once upon a time due to a domestic violence situation, I learned to distrust, disallow and second guess everything. It shook my confidence to the core.

I am no longer that person.


I am brimming with confidence. It is another way to say that I am full of confidence. Or what I like to call True Voice, Authentic Voice, and Who I am.

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” – E.E. Cummings

Good Vibrations

Imagine for a moment that you have your own unique style and quirks. You are not afraid to be you. You know you and use your voice in a positive manner that is beneficial to you.  When you speak your truth you will find yourself surrounded by others who have the same vibration. They may not seem like your peps, and yet, they are in your vibrational allegory.

Yep, that may mean that people who once seemed cool and adored you, may now find you off putting and vice versa. Your true authentic voice and vibration will light your path. This is confidence at its best. Being brave and courageous to unequivocally you! 

6 Simple Ways to Increase Your Confidence

  1. Groom yourself: It seems obvious and yet it is amazing on how good you can feel with a shower or bath. I have been in a horrible feeling and poof as if by magic the water cleansed me both inside and outside.
  2. Dress Nicely: Get dressed. There was a point in time where I would slide out of bed, run a brush through my tangled mass of hair, pull it back and throw on a shirt and shorts; no care, just going through the motion. We all need days like this to rest and veg; but not when it is day after day. Get dressed this will boost your mood big time.
  3. Anxiety and/or depression zappers: Stop worrying about the past and doubting the future.  Live right now at this moment. Right now you are reading this blog post. When you are done you have moved to another moment. Go slow; step by step. There is no race.Dream Big Make Happen Choice Chance Change Magical Blessings
  4. Mindful breathing. This can be meditation. Taking a 5 mins midday break where you breath deeply. Let your mind wander. Breath in and out. Just breath and let go of worry, anxiety.
  5. Speak slowly. Give yourself the benefit of not racing to an answer. If you really mean no. Inhale, take a deep breath, exhale and slowly say, no, thank you. When you slow you speech, you are able to connect with your true feelings. It is okay to say no.
  6. Set a goal/new habit. It takes 21 days to create a habit and 28 days for this to stick. Choose a goal/new habit. Set aside time and work on it for 15 mins each day. Mark on a calendar your success and at the end of 21/28 days celebrate. Not a small celebration. Make this huge!

You Can Do it! 

No matter how many times your have tried or where you are beginning, be proud of yourself for trying. You are an amazing, brave individual. Now go forth and build your confidence one step at a time.

Natasha, please help me gain more confidence


Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings, 



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Power of the Voice

The power of your voice can empower you or disempower you. 

The choice is up to you.

Have you ever felt as if you are not being heard and raise your volume, just to discover that your vocals were misunderstood? All of a sudden you went from the little unassuming voice to the one that seems out of control.


You are speaking and every time that you speak, someone else speaks over you? Stop, pause by taking a deep breath and realize this is about them and not you.

I personally know both sides; the non listened to where others felt that their wisdom was much wiser. only to discover that they did not know what they were speaking of, and me taking the de-railed train back on course with my own wisdom.


Being told that just because I am able to project my voice that does not mean I have much to say; I am just loud.

Ahhh contraire! Through vocal training for singing, drama and other avenues, my voice expands well. THis is not to say that I should or purposely try to over speak someone.

In fact, some of my best vocal moments are refined, and they embody the smooth and grace of a fine wine.  

With all of the social media noise that can pollute us, Be sure to choose wisely what you voice and how it is voiced.  

Sorry, not ever one will wish to hear what you have to say or agree with you. This does not mean giving up on you because of another.

There is wisdom in knowing when to speak and when not to. 

Inspiration is key and if I had listened, then many would not hear me and that was not of divine order nor my divine path.  Releasing their anger and pain that I was sided with was part of my resolution.

A quick question are you talking to talk or you speaking to be listened to? 

Using the Power of Your Voice

Ways to Have You Voice Heard in a Wise Manner of Speaking:

1. Greet another or others with enthusiasm.  If you are grumpy or aggressive in your greeting people will not wish to listen to you.

2. Watch your tone of voice.  Ninety percent of misunderstandings are about the tone of your voice.

3. Perception.  How is what you are saying being perceived?  In other words are you speaking only to talk or  are you allowing a moment for another to process what you are saying.  For example, do you hear people as well when you are tired or had a long day?

4. Be yourself and enjoy the moment.

5. Step back and Pause.  This goes back to perception. One time I thought that I was not being heard until i stepped back and paused.  This allowed me to realize that I was not only being heard, I was being listened to in a mega manner.

6. Speak from a loving place.  People can tell if you being sincere or blowing smoke.  They can also feel the love in your voice. Reflect on a moment when you were a child; did you wish to be hollered at or spoken to in a calm voice filled with love?

May you use your voice as a wise  and loving communication device.

Much Love, Much Light and Magical Blessings, 


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Natasha is also an English Language Arts and Special Education teacher who specializing in communication of speaking and listening and social skills.

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Why You Should Revel in Your Headstrong Daughter

Recently I witnessed why You should revel in your headstrong daughter:

The farmer had pre-made 1 pound batches that I was not interested in; and as I was awaiting for an answer from the farmer, her daughter stepped in, “Aww, Mom really sometimes, the customer is right; she just wants half a pound of asparagus; money is money and if we do this, she’ll remember and come back; we need good costumers.”  This young lady is about 16 years old; some of the more mature ladies were off put by her statement.

A few moments later, I encounter a “headstrong” female toddler who wanted to bounce her ball to see how high it went. As I tried to stop the ball from rolling into the street, her parents stood looking on in an embarrassed state. I smiled and said, “Please do me a huge favor; love her strength and independence; she is a most blessed joy and one day will empower others.”  The uncle smiles and nods his head in agreement with a quick flash I add, “Dance with her; and she will dance with you.”

Bring It On

I knew that I was being reminded of who I once was.  My family did not relish in the favor of my independent strength; rather I was the last of the adage that children should be seen and not heard: the rendered statement-sit down and shut up echoing throughout my childhood.

Here is why we should enable our willful girls.  Those determined girls blossom into powerful ladies.  They are a blessing and a joy, and help others to shine in their power.

There was once a time where women were seen and not heard; in fact, there are many cultures and countries where this still occurs.

Personal Reflection

Reflect back to a moment to when you wish you had you communicated with your true voice and spoke from an authentic place, but then you did not.  Now look back to a moment when you expressed your true, authentic, powerful voice and how this felt.  It does not mean shouting or being aggressive.  This means to feel empowered and enabled.  Being able to say what you feel and not forgiving for having made a statement that resonates with your heart and soul.

An unwavering girl knows her own power and voice and she is not afraid to use it.  How is this a bad thing? Or rather is it, because you wanted your idea to be the voice of reason as the “adult” or the one in charge; hence that is a control aspect.


Step back for a moment; disempower the willfulness of a girl and now she is complacent; her voice unheard and not expressed; her shine has dulled and another has control over her.  Do you wish that to be your daughter?  This is what begins to happen in the sense of domestic violence.  DV can be emotional, mental, physical, sexual and so forth.  Do you wish to teach your daughter to release her power to another, dull her shine and diminish her sparkle or worse her life?

This is not to say that everyone should be voicing whatever pops into their thoughts, that is where wisdom comes into play.  Teach our youth, our girls how to use their voice in a positive manner. Because if they are brash and harsh this can swing into a whole other manner of aggression and isolation.  


Let’s teach our girls to use their empowered voices. Let’s help enable their strengths and authentic selves


Most importantly let us teach them their value and worth. 


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When a person feels worthy and value this helps illuminate them to a who new light and level to help this world.  Let us provide this manner for our “willful” girls who blossom and grow into amazing powerful young women.


Yes!Natasha, I would like you to help my daughter be her best!


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A Great way to begin the discussion with a young lady or a better understanding for all ages.

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings, 


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Natasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author, Artist and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator.  She uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me Magical Blessings Healing Center