Adjust Your Approach to Triggers and Change Your Mindset

You decide to make a change in your life. It’s a big deal and you wanna go for it; but, you don’t know how, and you’ve not been provided the steps on how to make this change. You hear about adjusting your mindset, and attmept to create the change. However, it backfires and you feel like a failure. So, now what. It’s not to say that you’re unintelligent, and assuming that you have all the answers is unfair. We all have expertise, something that we’re amazing at.

Adjust Your Mindset

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The old idea (fake it until you make it) is fading away and authenticity is much more powerful. It doesn’t mean that you have to have all the answers. I love driving my car, but I don’t desire to be the one to repair it when it breaks down; therefore, I go to an expert called the mechanic. It’s a win-win.

The same thing is true about how to identify what’s  a trigger. As well as how to effectively dissolve the trigger in a manner that works, and is not destructively ineffective.

Thus, this allows you to break a pattern. It is the acknowledgement and the recognition that brings forth the healing. This allows you to move through your emotions and feelings in a positive manner when you’re able to identify what upsets you and/or creates anxiety.

It’s going to be okay, and it’ll take a bit of adjustment and some time. Soon you’ll be about work with and through your emotions. This empowers your own personal development. Which can set you eons apart from those who have not learned how to effectively communicate with their inner being and soul.

How incredible is that? I don’t know about you, but I’m excited to be able to share this personal development tool and help your soul grow. Self-compassion and self-love are powerful empowerment tools.

Be patient with yourself. It takes time to unravel and undo learned behaviors and patterns. Think of this as a way to adjust your thought patterns from a negative to a more positive solution and outcome.

How to recognize a trigger:

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A trigger is when you feel uncomfortable. As if you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own skin, afraid, anxious, or mad. Basically it’s your emotions. Next time you get triggered go through this process.

  • Stop allowing your emotions to control you.
  • Except that you have emotions.
  • Recognize that using your emotions to feel is your superpower.
  • Recognize when you feel uncomfortable.
  • Allow yourself to feel: whether it be sad, mad, happy.
  • Be honest with yourself. For example if a friend or relative shares good news and you feel envious. That’s an emotional trigger
  • Have you realized that when you’re having a conversation with another that a particular emotion or feeling emotes sensation that is uncomfortable and you just wished end the conversation as soon as possible?
  • Have you realized that when you were hanging out with family or friends that a particular conversation is uncomfortable, and you feel?

Moving Through the Trigger

A great way to recognize emotional triggers is to journal. Use one of the writing prompts below or free write. Have a conversation with yourself on a piece of paper. This is a great way for you to express how you’re feeling, what emotions are showing up for you, in a safe manner that is reflective and constructive. Practice a conversation that you would like to have with someone in the mirror or in your journal but do not create a false expectation. you are not in control of anyone else’s reactions emotions or feelings. You can only take care of you in this manner, and that’s okay.

Writing Prompts:

  1. Write about a conversation you wish you could have.
  2. Create a timeline of small events that led up to a big event in your life.
  3. Write a poem about the greatest joy or the greatest sorrow in your life right now.
  4. Describe your greatest insecurity and why you struggle with it.
  5. Choose a song that emotes deep emotions. Why does it?
  6. What is your greatest source of guilt and how can you forgive yourself?

Maybe journaling is not your thing. Doddle an image and add words to this image.

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Gentle Reminder:

Be sure to recognize. Every pattern and trigger has a cycle, and when you are learning, there may be an old pattern that wishes to stop the cycle. Disallow this occurrence. When you stop a cycle this cycle will recycle. This is part of personal development and soul growth that until the lesson is learned it will continue onward at any cost; however when you are learning I’m you stop the cycle this can create more havoc than is necessary. Allow yourself to release, let’s go of the outcomes and expectations and flow into the experience. It takes time to adjust I’m not okay one step at a time is better than no steps or motion at all.



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Natasha Botkin MSc. SpEd. Rm., Reiki Master, Meditation Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author and Artist. She uses healing whimsical, magical, soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns, blocks, and trauma to help them empower themselves. Connect with me Magical Wellness 17.com

Self-Care is Authentically Loving You

There is much a breast about what authenticity means. In my previous article, How to be Authentic, we explore and discover ways to tap into your authenticity; but, also allowing yourself to be the best that you can be at any given moment.

You’re amazing!

You’re truly unique. Dear Heart- you’re one of a kind.

Your life is not a sifi/horror channel recreation. You’re pure perfection.

Self-Care is Loving You

Self-care is authentically loving you.

It’s a way to say that you’re enough. That you’re valuable, and worth taking care of. This doesn’t have to be grandiose. It’s the moment by moment in your life; where you’re taking care of yourself before helping anyone.

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I get it once upon a time,  I found myself feeling less than thereof, and creating a monstrosity by taking care of everyone else. Thinking this was the best thing in the world, and that  I was the greatest in the world for doing so. Yet, there would be moments of irritation, frustration and varied darkness of regret. I was exhausted by making sure that everyone else was fulfilled, and I didn’t fill my own emotional cup.


Unchain Yourself

When this was happening,  I also wasn’t able to tap into my true authentic inner being. There were  moments in time that I felt like a gigantic fraud. Here I am competing with pretty much no one, but my own self about how awesome and wonderful I am, and yet my own needs were unmet. I was writing my own satire tragedy.

After years of neglect and absolute exhaustion my dear sweet soul sounded me with her vibrancy. It was as if a bell sounded; my heart and soul knowing how to lead me out of this darkness. Don’t fret, if you’ve found yourself in this manner. There’s a way to release and let go of the nonsense, and start over. You get as many chances as you need. I’m pretty sure my angels look like they were drug through the mud sparkes of light; but, we made it, and I’m filling my own well, and thrilled to enjoy the excitement that occurs with authentic self-caring love.

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When  I was taking better care of myself is when I discovered my true authentic magical powers, and I really want you to be able to tap into your wisdom and bring forth your beautiful authentic self.  It’s incredible, to love and care for yourself first and foremost. After a bit, you’ll be able to transfer your caring, love to others, but not disclude yourself. Gone are the days of feeling desolate, less than there are of, irritated, exhausted and so much more.


Authentic Self Care:

Self Care = taking care of you

Authentic =  your true inner being

Authentic Self Care =  taking care of your true inner being

  1. Know your value- Do you believe that you’re enough?
  2. Let’s practice self-talk- Start the day on a positive. Write in a journal 3 things that you are grateful about. In fact, grateful hearts are manifestation magnets. The more grateful the easier it is to attract what you want.
  3. Profess your potential and success (big or small)- Make bold declarations: Yes, I am awesome!  I made coffee like a boss! Girl you rocked making dinner!
  4. Use Positive Affirmations- Begin by finding positive affirmations that you like. Write it on post it notes, and place this in locations you will see throughout the day.
  5. Make Meaningful Relationships-Do you have people who add and deposit their light and love to you? Or do you have those who make frequent withdrawals and leave you without hope or exhausted? It’s hard, but sometimes we need to let go of those who are not on our side. It may feel scary, but in the long run, it’ll help bring those who are celebrating and supporting you as you celebrate and support them.
  6. Self-care is real– Go for that walk in nature, take a nice hot bath, take a nap, drink water, enjoy a nice cup of coffee or tea, enjoy that piece of dark chocolate, eat healthy, the list goes on and on. Your self-care is not like others as you are not like others. It is nice to have a general idea; and yet, I encourage you to explore and discover what’s important to you and your self-care.

It’s go time: Putting this into Practice:

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You’ve read the article; you’ve agreed to do this for yourself. Now, it’s showtime. It’s time to implement this into your everyday life.

Be sure to practice often; multiple times a day. Soon it will seem second nature. In the final stages it will feel natural and a part of your true authentic inner being.

Bravo!!  

Celebrating You!!

Oodles of Love,

Natasha

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Natasha Botkin MSc. Ed. Rm., Reiki Master, Meditation Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author and Artist. She uses healing whimsical, magical, soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns, blocks, and trauma to help them empower themselves. Connect with me Magical Wellness 17.com

Let It Go Meditation

How Expectations Can Ruin Your Life

Have you ever stopped and wondered how an expectation can ruin your life?  Or why something didn’t turn out the way that you thought it should.  It is more likely that you’ve decided the outcome to be a certain way, and if it is not, then there is a price to pay.  In truth, who is paying the price?  

You are the one paying the price with a price tag that is way too much.  

 

Pondering Expectations

What does your life look like if you let go and released any expectations? Close your eyes for a moment and enter a scene:  you’re invited to go to a dinner party,  you know one person,  you are not aware of the menu,  and when you arrive you see that everyone is dressed in a costume. Close your eyes and envision this particular setting. How do you feel?  Do you feel welcome Do you feel uncomfortable? Do you feel embarrassed?  Do you feel like an outcast?

Why do you feel this way.  Maybe you were completely okay, you are super comfortable in your own skin and this is awesome; therefore, you don’t care- let’s party on/ let’s have a great time.  However, what if you feel extremely out of your comfort zone, unsure what to do and this is not what you expected.  Do you stay or do you  leave?

 

Write it Out (Discovery of SElf)

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Please take 3 – 5 minutes to write  about your feeling with this writing prompt.

If I let go of controlled expectations then will happen…

 

Letting Go Of Control

Yes, essentially this is ultimately about letting go of control, and just being happy with whatever comes.

Let’s surmise that you stayed and you had a great time. Why, because you let go of the final outcome. You were happy with what was happening around you no matter what,  you have an incredible sense of self worth and did not care what others thought about you. Or rather you allowed yourself to just go with the flow.

What would happen if you allow that to be throughout every aspect of your life?  As children we are given first this and then that. Our parent(s)/ grandparent(s)/society have preconditioned us into human behavior;  in order to receive; you must do ABC to receive XYZ. Thus, this has created expectations.

 

Write it Out (Discovery of Self) 

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Please take 3 – 5 minutes to write  about your feeling with this writing prompt.

When I let go of control I can…

 

Go With the Flow

I have personally discovered from my own Self.  That it was not necessarily the outcome or the expectations that was causing me grief within mySelf.  It was the small self ego monstrosity, that would rear its ugly essence. It was a lack of faith and trust as a whole. It is about allowing  your Higher Self to connect to spirit in a trusting manner and holding onto the faith that all will work out as it shall.  It is the disallowance of an idea that was preconceived and notion to be as such. In other words just let it go, go with the flow and allow Divine Spirit to bring you the most Miraculous, Grandeur moment. Or what I like to remind myself of when I get into the when I get into an expectation:  “Let It Go, Let it Flow…” – Natasha Botkin 

Connect with me to flow into Let it Flow Meditation or Discovery of Self with the Shiny Gold Stars Guidance.  

 

 

 

 

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings,

Natasha

 

Natasha Botkin Magical Blessings Healing CenterNatasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling author and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator.  Natasha uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me https://magicalblessingshealingcenter.com