Adjust Your Approach to Triggers and Change Your Mindset

You decide to make a change in your life. It’s a big deal and you wanna go for it; but, you don’t know how, and you’ve not been provided the steps on how to make this change. You hear about adjusting your mindset, and attmept to create the change. However, it backfires and you feel like a failure. So, now what. It’s not to say that you’re unintelligent, and assuming that you have all the answers is unfair. We all have expertise, something that we’re amazing at.

Adjust Your Mindset

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The old idea (fake it until you make it) is fading away and authenticity is much more powerful. It doesn’t mean that you have to have all the answers. I love driving my car, but I don’t desire to be the one to repair it when it breaks down; therefore, I go to an expert called the mechanic. It’s a win-win.

The same thing is true about how to identify what’s  a trigger. As well as how to effectively dissolve the trigger in a manner that works, and is not destructively ineffective.

Thus, this allows you to break a pattern. It is the acknowledgement and the recognition that brings forth the healing. This allows you to move through your emotions and feelings in a positive manner when you’re able to identify what upsets you and/or creates anxiety.

It’s going to be okay, and it’ll take a bit of adjustment and some time. Soon you’ll be about work with and through your emotions. This empowers your own personal development. Which can set you eons apart from those who have not learned how to effectively communicate with their inner being and soul.

How incredible is that? I don’t know about you, but I’m excited to be able to share this personal development tool and help your soul grow. Self-compassion and self-love are powerful empowerment tools.

Be patient with yourself. It takes time to unravel and undo learned behaviors and patterns. Think of this as a way to adjust your thought patterns from a negative to a more positive solution and outcome.

How to recognize a trigger:

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A trigger is when you feel uncomfortable. As if you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own skin, afraid, anxious, or mad. Basically it’s your emotions. Next time you get triggered go through this process.

  • Stop allowing your emotions to control you.
  • Except that you have emotions.
  • Recognize that using your emotions to feel is your superpower.
  • Recognize when you feel uncomfortable.
  • Allow yourself to feel: whether it be sad, mad, happy.
  • Be honest with yourself. For example if a friend or relative shares good news and you feel envious. That’s an emotional trigger
  • Have you realized that when you’re having a conversation with another that a particular emotion or feeling emotes sensation that is uncomfortable and you just wished end the conversation as soon as possible?
  • Have you realized that when you were hanging out with family or friends that a particular conversation is uncomfortable, and you feel?

Moving Through the Trigger

A great way to recognize emotional triggers is to journal. Use one of the writing prompts below or free write. Have a conversation with yourself on a piece of paper. This is a great way for you to express how you’re feeling, what emotions are showing up for you, in a safe manner that is reflective and constructive. Practice a conversation that you would like to have with someone in the mirror or in your journal but do not create a false expectation. you are not in control of anyone else’s reactions emotions or feelings. You can only take care of you in this manner, and that’s okay.

Writing Prompts:

  1. Write about a conversation you wish you could have.
  2. Create a timeline of small events that led up to a big event in your life.
  3. Write a poem about the greatest joy or the greatest sorrow in your life right now.
  4. Describe your greatest insecurity and why you struggle with it.
  5. Choose a song that emotes deep emotions. Why does it?
  6. What is your greatest source of guilt and how can you forgive yourself?

Maybe journaling is not your thing. Doddle an image and add words to this image.

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Gentle Reminder:

Be sure to recognize. Every pattern and trigger has a cycle, and when you are learning, there may be an old pattern that wishes to stop the cycle. Disallow this occurrence. When you stop a cycle this cycle will recycle. This is part of personal development and soul growth that until the lesson is learned it will continue onward at any cost; however when you are learning I’m you stop the cycle this can create more havoc than is necessary. Allow yourself to release, let’s go of the outcomes and expectations and flow into the experience. It takes time to adjust I’m not okay one step at a time is better than no steps or motion at all.



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What’s Your Word of the Year

Last year I did something new. One day while I was meditating, I heard a word over and over. It was crystal clear as if an angelic wind swept through my ear drums sweetly singing me this word; I wrote the down the word: Serenity. I made a pact with myself that I did indeed need more serenity and asked Spirit what was the next step.

Don’tcha just love when there seems like hollowness and now the angelic voice is quiet. I shrugged my shoulders and ventured onward: I was worn out, my love life seemed lost, my two young adult boys moved into their own spaces. Nothing felt right as I tided the house. It felt dismal and dark.

Changes

Change #1: 

Boom, whap OH NO! Roof flapping in the wind. My BeLoved to the rescue. Yeah!

Change #2: 

Water everywhere. In the house, outside of the house. In fact during a storm, I stood in the middle of my house with water rushing past me like I was standing on an island in the middle of a river. So many things began to break. OMG! My house is evicting me. UGH! It wants a family, “please let me go. You will find better.”

Change #3:

Choice Chance Change Magical Blessings Laid off; house up for sale. I barely have time to get everything out in the time that it sells and the new owners take possession. Due to that I donated, and gave away 90% of my items.

Change #4:
I moved in with my BeLoved. I am scared of what has occurred with us before. Yet, my heart says hush. It’ll get better.

Change #5: 

Looking for a new space. The land finds us. It’s an amazing, peaceful. SERENE; it is serenity at its best.  Do want to hear the funny part? It was 9 months when I chose Serene for my word of the year to when we purchased our dream land and begin to prepare to build our dream home. Nice Delivery!

Things Aren’t Always As They Seem

Now when you read about all the changes, it seems scary and plain fucked up. Trust me I have said aloud many a times this year, “Spirit, can I have a rest?” Spirit gave me 3 months to rest and yep another change. A job showed; it needed me as much as I needed it.  Building your dream home requires happy underwriters.

With each transition, I was shifting into the most amazing serenity deep within me. So, what may seem daunting; really wasn’t. Spirit was creating ways for me to let go and to flow into my own serenity.

Will She Do It Again? 

Yes, yes I am!  I have no idea what will show nor what will happen. Or that’s what I say out loud My heart and soul know the way, and I am getting out of their way so we can have more…

Are ya Ready…

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Yes, confidence is my 2018 Word of the Year.  I am excited for the possibilities that will show.

Word of the Year Meditation

  • Light a white candle (you can use any color or scent; white gives your a clear slate).
  • Have a pen and paper next to you.
  • Set the intention that your 2018 Word will be revealed to you.
  • Close your eyes.
  • Place your hands over your heart.
  • Inhale and exhale 3 deep breaths.
  • “Dear Spirit, I am looking for a change. I am looking for a way to let go. I am looking for a word that makes sense for me to do this. What is my word?
  • Inhale and exhale.
  • Flutter your eyes open.
  • Take the pen and paper.
  • Write the first word that shows on your paper.
  • Look at your word.
  • Place this over your heart.
  • Say, “Spirit, please help me gently and gracefully bring this meaning into my life. and so it is…”
  • Place your word where you will view this multiple times a day.
  • Step back and watch your word come alive in your life.

Believing that YOU Can

Now, one word of caution. I worked out all of the kinks.

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Please trust me when I say Ask. Believe. Receive.

Things may not show up as you deem or think they should. Spirit knows what it is doing and will align you in the most magical of ways; even if it means letting go of people, places and things. This is about you and what your heart and soul need; if you allow it.

 

I wish you so much Luck, Love and Light on your incredible journey!

I ask one thing; please share your word and story with me, I would love to hear it!

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings,

Natasha

 

Believe in You Natasha Botkin Magical BlessingsNatasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author, Artist and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator.  She uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me Magical Blessings Healing Center